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2020 New Year’s Resolution 

The second decade of the 21st century is right around the corner.  We’re only a week away from the year 2020. As the cliche goes, hindsight is 20/20.  There’s also perfect vision for the eyes that we say is 20/20 vision. Whatever the case, 2019 is quickly coming to an end.  Since this is the start of a new year, it’s a good time to think about your 2020 New Year’s resolution.  

Why is a New Year’s Resolution Important to Me?

Once upon a time, I was one of those people who used to criticize the idea of New Year’s resolutions.  “Why do I have to wait until the start of a new year to do something”? “How is a resolution at the start of the year supposed to help me be successful”?  Now, I see the value of having a New Year’s resolution. It’s true that we could start a change in our lives on a Wednesday in the middle of April or May. However, when we choose to start a new chapter of our lives at the beginning of the year, it’s like we have a clean slate in front of us.  Our minds are already adjusted to the new day, the new month, the new year. It’s easier for us to know how much time we are spending on our goals too.  

For me, having a resolution helps me to stay focused during the upcoming year.  I’m not just going into it blindly. Instead, I have direction and know that there’s a destination to be reached.  January 1st is the starting point like the beginning of a map for a journey. As with most good journeys, it’s important to have an idea of where you’re headed at the very least.    

Plan first, act next

A lot of people start their resolutions on the first day of the new year.  Instead of starting then, it’s better to start before. The earlier you begin the better.  The planning stages for a New Year’s resolution should be before the start of the new year.  Anywhere from a few days to a few weeks ahead. By planning first, you’ll be able to jump right in once the new year begins.

Clear Goals

Define your goals with clarity.  Make it so clear, that if someone asked you what they were, you’d be able to explain instantly and they’d be able to understand without any difficulty.  When your goals are clear, you’ll be able to see them in your mind. The more you can visualize your clear goals, the more real it becomes to you. Aside from having clear goals, be sure that these goals mean something to you.  Whether they’re related to career success, your relationships, your knowledge, body, or something else, your goals should be important to you. 

Plan, then Act on your Resolution

You’ve written down your New Year’s resolutions, now you have to follow them.  Anyone can write a list of things they want, but what good is it if you’re not acting on your desire?  Make a plan on how to bring your resolution, your goals, into reality. Consider the steps that you need to take and also what obstacles you might face.  Have an action plan for how to overcome any challenges that get in your way. Very importantly, stay committed to your resolution for whatever period of time you allocate for yourself.  Your resolution might last for the whole year, or maybe you just need three months to accomplish your goal. Whatever the case, stick to it and remind yourself regularly that you’re in this for the long haul.  

If you fail while trying?

You might try your best to fulfill your resolution, but still come up short in the end.  If you fail while trying, don’t beat yourself up. Try again. Remember, if you never work toward your goals for the new year, you won’t make much progress.  If you try and fail, you’ll still end up making more progress than if you had never tried at all. Take whatever failure you come across as a learning experience.  

In ending

Let’s make the most of this coming year.  Make 2020 the year in which your New Year’s resolution come true and your dreams come to fruition.  Set your goals, visualize them, make a plan, and get to work. This year can be a success, if you want it to be! 

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World Arabic Language Day

Today, December 18th, is designated as World Arabic Language Day by UNESCO.  On December 18, 2010, UNESCO began to honor the role of the Arabic language around the world.   It also coincides with the date that Arabic became one of the six official languages of the United Nations (December 18, 1973).  This year, the theme is Arabic Language and Artificial Intelligence.  

Currently, nearly 300 million people speak and use the Arabic language.  These include those who use the formal variety as well as the various dialects.  The language is a rich one known for its depth and its use in areas such as literature, poetry, songs, science, and philosophy.  Arabic speakers in the past also translated many works from ancient Greece and Rome. Eventually, they spread these works throughout Europe via Spain. In addition, Arabic words have crossed over into other languages such as English and Spanish.  Some loan words from Arabic include sugar (which comes from al-sukkar), alcohol (which comes from al-kuhl), and algebra (which comes from al-jabr).  

To learn more, check out UNESCO’s page dedicated to this day. Are you a speaker of Arabic?  Are you a learner of the Arabic language?  If so, happy World Arabic Language Day to you.  

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A Visit to Nizwa Fort

A few days ago I was able to visit Nizwa Fort, which is located in the center of the older area of the city.  Around the fort is the Nizwa souq, which is known for its Friday morning goat and cattle market.  You can also buy things such as luban (frankincense), clothes, traditional pottery and crafts, and a variety of dates and honey that are locally produced at the souq. 

View of the minaret and dome of the Nizwa Fort Mosque.

 There’s also al-Qala’a Mosque (the mosque next to the fort that was probably the largest mosque in Nizwa until the Sultan Qaboos mosque opened its doors in 2015).

The Tower

Nizwa fort was built in the 1600s by Imam Sultan bin Saif al-Ya’rubi of the Ya’rubi dynasty.  This was the same dynasty that built Jibreen castle.  The fort was the main area of administration in Nizwa during that era. One of the first things you might notice when walking around the outside of the fort is the large circular tower.  This tower is about 30 meters high and has a diameter of approximately 36 meters.  

When you go inside the fort and enter the tower, it almost looks like a large courtyard. There are stairs that lead you to the top of tower, however these stairs are narrow.  If you have a fear of heights, you might not want to go up.  Or at least, if you go up, you probably shouldn’t look down.  From the top of the tower, you can see all of the surrounding area.  Local shops and homes, fields and fields of green palm trees, the city beyond; all of these stretch out before your eyes. 

A Heavily Fortified Fort

Nizwa Fort was made to withstand attacks from the outside and was built in a heavily fortified and well-protected way.  Upon entering Nizwa fort, you’ll find two canons guarding the front door.  Likewise, there were canons in the tower that overlooked the area around.  Essentially, they had a 360-degree view and guards and soldiers were capable of blowing away any attacking forces outside.  The doors of the fort are inches thick to protect against being battered or torn down.  There were also secret rooms in the fort.  

Entrance of Nizwa Fort with Canons.
Woman walking in front of Nizwa Fort entrance

Any invading foe that managed to get past canon fire, the massive doors, and soldiers who might have hid in the secret rooms would have to deal with narrow winding stairs.  

Not because of it being difficult to climb, but because some of these had removable steps. An enemy could easily find himself falling into a deep hole that he thought was a step and would meet certain death.  For the attacker who got past this, there was still the issue of the murder holes.  

Narrow stairs and an entry way

Murder Holes

If you visit Nizwa fort, you’ll find that there are some holes in the ground where the walls and floors meet.  These holes have a very special purpose, and it’s not to circulate air. As a way to defend themselves, those guarding Nizwa fort would pour boiling oil or water onto the attackers below.  If these weren’t available, they would use boiling date syrup, making their unlucky victim suffer greatly and most likely even die.  

A Stash of Food and Supplies

The builders prepared themselves for possible long lasting sieges. They maintained a large store of food (particularly dates) within the fort.  In fact, as you make your way through the fort, you’ll see some bags of dates in special storerooms.  On top of that, they also built Nizwa Fort over an underground water reservoir system. Anybody who found himself trapped in the fort would at least be able to hold out for a while. 

A traditional water jug for storage at the fort
A traditional water jug.

Visiting Nizwa Fort Today

Today, Nizwa Fort is one of the most visited places in all of Oman.  Although there’s a regular, steady stream of visitors, Fridays tend to be the busiest day since so many people come to see the goat and cattle market in the souq.

 The fort is great for a visit because of its historical importance and it’s also wonderful for photography.  On some days, you’ll find a group of men who are performing the traditional Omani swordfight.  If the opportunity arises, take some time to watch it.  The Nizwa Fort is open Saturdays-Thursday 8:00am-8:00pm and Fridays 8:00am-11:30am & 1:30pm-8:00pm.  The current price of admission is 5 Omani rials.    

The top level of Jabrin Castle

In a previous post, I wrote about why it’s a good idea to take a staycation. If you haven’t read that post, go ahead and check it out here. Staying true to that idea, I decided to visit Jabrin Castle (also spelled Jabreen or Jibreen). Jabrin Castle is located in the Jabrin area of Oman about 25 minutes outside of Nizwa, Oman.

A musalah (prayer area) at Jabrin Castle.

Currently, Oman (along with other Gulf countries) is trying to expand its economy and rely less on oil. One way they’re planning to do this is by pushing for more tourism. In the not-so-distant past, Oman was more or less eclipsed by its neighbors in terms of tourism. Saudi Arabia had its share of tourism in the form of religious pilgrims. The UAE had the reputation of Dubai (and also Abu Dhabi) that brought people there. It was also an international hub in terms of flights. The same was true for Qatar as well.

However, in recent years, due to its stability and being a country that wasn’t oversaturated with tourists, Oman is now beginning to see a rise in visitors. People are curious and want to explore the Sultanate. Since I’m in the heart of all of this, I thought it would be a great idea to explore new places and to revisit the ones I haven’t been to in a while.

Some Information about Jabrin Castle

Jabrin Castle dates back to the 1670’s. It was built during the Ya’ruba dynasty under Imam Bil’Arab bin Sultan al-Ya’ruba who ruled from 1679-1692. In my opinion, this is one of the most beautiful (if not the most beautiful) forts/castles in Oman. Not only in terms of architecture, but because of the interior design as well.

The castle consists of three levels throughout. It contains sun and moon rooms along with meeting rooms for the ruler and his advisors, guests, etc. Rooms were made for visitors as well as study rooms. When you enter Jabrin Castle, you’ll immediately come across an interior courtyard with no roof at the top. This allows air to circulate throughout keeping things fresh and pleasant. It may not be air conditioning, but you can imagine the relief it would have brought centuries ago. Especially in the summers when temperatures may have been above 100 degrees (in Fahrenheit). As you go continue, you’ll also come across two small prisons, one for men, and one for women. Unfortunately for the prisoners, there was no courtyard breeze.

Roofless area to allow airflow.

What makes Jabrin Castle stand out from the other forts and castles in Oman is the decor inside. In guest rooms and majlis (meeting) areas, you’ll find carpets and colorful pillows to lean on. In the kitchen and supply areas, there are containers, cooking supplies and more. As you walk around the castle, you’ll get an idea of what life was like back then. The only thing that’s probably missing are actors to reenact a “day in the life” at Jabrin Castle scene.

A view toward the cooking area in Jabrin Castle.
A view toward a balcony made of wood.

Useful Information

As far as the interior of Oman goes, Nizwa and Bahla forts are usually the places people go to for tours. However, anyone who visits should add Jabrin to their itinerary. You can cover the whole place in under an hour and it’s worth visiting in my opinion. Currently, the price of admission is 500 baisas. With that, you’ll also receive a map/information guide as well as tour guide headphones that speak in different languages. As of this writing, Jabrin castle is open Saturdays-Thursdays from 9:00am-4:00pm and on Fridays from 8:00am-11:00am.

Hey everyone!  It’s been over a month since the 3-month language challenge began so I thought it would be a good time to share some updates.  This is language challenge update #1. If you’re new to the blog and you don’t know about the challenge, you can read about it here

Things have Become Easier with Time

One thing about having a language challenge is that it limits you.  There’s a time restriction that you have to work within. Because of that, you can’t procrastinate or leave things until another day.  Everyday that passes is a day closer to the end of the challenge. Every day of practice that is missed, is a day lost. At the start of this language challenge, it was a little difficult to be consistent.  I practiced and worked toward my goal, but it wasn’t always the easiest thing to do. With things being busy and fluctuating at work, I found my energy levels completely depleted once I went home for the day.  This was an almost daily fact for each weekday. Although language learning was important for me, I often had to drag myself to get going.  

Things are different now after more than a month.  Whether it’s reading, speaking, or listening, I find myself automatically gravitating toward Arabic.  Plans of what I want or need to do are already in my head. If there are no plans, the desire is still there to do something with Arabic each day.  It’s easier now to pick up a book, watch a show, or talk to someone than it was at the start.    

Increasing my Practice

At the outset, working with a teacher once a week was going to be a component of my learning strategy.  After a month of doing that, I decided to do it twice a week. One class is a 30 minute conversation session while the other is an hour long and focused on reading.  The reading course is to help me with pronunciation, building vocabulary, and reading comprehension. In addition to these two, I’ve started to attend weekly Arabic sessions that are sponsored by a local social group.  These social sessions enable me to use Arabic outside of a classroom context. All in all, I’m doing three sessions of Arabic each week. These sessions are in addition to reading each day and watching programs here and there throughout the week.  

A Reflection

Already, in the period of about a little more than a month, I’m seeing progress.  In fact, yesterday while reading, I realized how much my desire had increased to know this language.  I can honestly say that I was truly immersed while reading. On top of that, it was easier to understand the text that I was reading and make sense of it.  However, the progress that was made wasn’t only in terms of language abilities. It’s also related to how I’m approaching learning. I’m learning to slow down and enjoy the process.  This second month of the 3-month language challenge has me extremely excited for the possibilities ahead. I’m optimistic that by the end of this language challenge, I will reach my goal.  December 31, 2020 is only a stone’s throw away, but I’m walking toward it with determination.        

Can you learn a language in 3 months? Yes, of course you can.  Can you become fluent in a language in 3 months starting from scratch?  Most likely not. Three months might not get you to fluency, but it can bring a drastic change in your foreign language abilities if you’re committed.  Because of this, I’ve decided to push myself to continue to learn a language in 3 months. Basically, I’m planning to do a 3 month language challenge. What’s a language challenge and why am I doing one?

Some background information

In the last few posts on this blog, I’ve discussed goals, why they’re important and why they should be clear.  I’ve also talked about why we should use the last few months of the year to recommit to the resolutions we made at the beginning of the year.  These weren’t simply random posts. The ideas in them had true meaning to me and in my life. At the start of 2019, I decided that I wanted to be at the C1 level of Arabic.  (C1 is a low advanced level on the language proficiency scale). For the longest time, I’ve been stuck at an intermediate plateau. I can learn vocabulary fairly easily, but grammar is another beast.  Speaking with the correct sentence structure has also been a big problem for me.

I decided this year would be the one for me to focus and get past the plateau stage. The focus for the earlier part of the year was on input.  Reading graded readers (these are books that are simplified for learners) and novels. TV shows translated into Arabic were another constant part of my efforts to escape the plateau zone. This year I was more consistent than I’ve probably ever been before.  Now, with the last 3 months of the year quickly approaching, it’s crunch time. It’s time to focus and to be dedicated to the task of acquiring the beautiful language of Arabic. This is where the 3-month language challenge comes in.   

The 3-month language challenge explained

Imagine you’re learning Dutch.  You take two 1-hour classes twice a week. In between classes, you study three days a week for half an hour at the most.  It’s a decent amount of time especially for a working adult or a student. However, it totals 3.5 hours per week at the most.  You might experience some development.

Now, imagine that you commit to learning Dutch for 3 months. You say that you’re going to work with the language for at least one hour per day.  If you stick to that, your total will be at least seven hours of time spent with the language per week. Already, you’ve at least doubled your hours with Dutch. With the 3-month language challenge you’re not haphazardly dealing with the language that you want to acquire.  Purposefully, you’re going toward it, and you have a goal in mind. The goal can be anything that you want. In my case, I want to speak coherently, develop my grammar, and build a stronger lexical (vocabulary) base. Put succinctly, I hope to be at the C1 level of Arabic once the 3-month period is up.  

My plan (to continue to) learn a language in 3 months  

Everyone has their own ideas when it comes to doing a 3-month language challenge.  As they become more advanced in their target language (the language they’re learning), they become more aware of what they’re lacking.  Once that’s known, they’ll know how to approach learning the language in 3 months. In my case: 


I’ll continue to read novels each day to build my vocabulary.  Reading will also allow me to be exposed to a variety of examples of sentence structure.  I plan to spend at least an hour per day reading. I know that I have problems with pronunciation of new words.  In the majority of books, there are no vowel markings. As a result, I’ll be adding an audio component to the books that I’ll be reading.  Thankfully, I came across an app called Kitab Sawti. It’s an audiobook app much like Audible, but for Arabic books. I have the Hunger Games books in Arabic and Kitab Sawti has that available as well, so I’ll be reading while listening.   


To help with listening, I’ll be making use of YouTube or any other source to watch TV shows.  I’ll be watching a TV show in Arabic daily. On average, it should be about 30 minutes per day, give or take.  I prefer to watch cartoons translated from English and especially from the 80’s or 90’s. Since I’ll probably already know the topic, I’ll have an aid in understanding what’s happening.   If I have an idea of the story, I’ll more readily catch new words. There are a lot of shows such as Smurfs, X-Men, Recess, and even Courage the Cowardly Dog that are now available in Arabic.  Entertaining shows in their own right, a healthy dose of nostalgia, and full of comedy.  Enjoying yourself while learning enhances the learning process and, thankfully, shows like these are very enjoyable.  

Smurfs in Arabic
Recess, a classic show from the 90s is has been translated into Arabic
One of the BEST cartoons of the 90s that most people don’t know about, Exosquad. It’s also available in Arabic.

I prefer to watch TV shows over movies because of two main reasons.  First, TV shows are more easily digestible. A show’s runtime can range anywhere from 25 minutes to one hour.  Compared to a movie that’s two hours or longer, I’ll have less of a chance of suffering from fatigue. The second reason is that TV shows have many episodes.  Once you understand the characters, locations, and general plot of the first four or five episodes, it becomes easier to understand the future episodes. Movies are one offs and even with sequels, the topics may be so different that it would leave a language learner lost.


Writing is something that will happen twice a week.  Just a short essay of about 3 paragraphs or so. For writing, I’ll be working with a tutor so I can get feedback on what I’ve put together.  The main reason I’ll be writing is to work on my sentence structure and to ensure that there’s coherence. I’ve read that writing is a great help when it comes to speaking, so I hope to see the effect of it over time.  In English, writing is a piece of cake (I’ve been doing it long enough after all). In Arabic however, it’s a different story. For just 3 paragraphs, I’ll probably need at least 45 minutes. Over time, I’ll hopefully be able to reduce the amount of time it takes for me to compose something.  


Speaking will also happen with a tutor.  I’ll be working with a tutor once a week for one hour to increase my speaking abilities.  Speaking abilities includes fluency, accuracy, and expanded spoken vocabulary. My hope is to make use of the vocabulary and structures that I’ve learned through the other three skills (reading, listening, writing).  


If there are grammatical areas where I’m weak and repeatedly making mistakes, I’ll ask my tutor to point these out and I’ll try to work on them.  Improvement is the name of the game.  

The big picture

I’ll be averaging about 13 hours per week of working with the language.  Working a full time job at the same time, it won’t be easy, but I’ll have to continually remind myself that it’s only for 3-months.  Also, it’s not a class or a chore, this is a hobby for me, so I should approach it in that way. I’m sure that if I stay committed to this, I’ll be able to successfully exit the plateau that I’m in by the end of the three months.  

Minimal action

There are some days that are extremely busy.  Some days are bad. Some days are exhausting. I think on days like these, there should be some kind of minimal action.  If you’re doing a 3-month language challenge and there’s a day or even a week where you’re just out of it, there should be something that you can do at the very minimum.  For me, I’ve decided that watching a program will be that (or listening to an audiobook). These can be done while eating, laying down, etc. So, if I find that I don’t want to do anything after a long day at work, I’ll at least listen for 20 or 30 minutes to something in Arabic and leave it at that.  

In ending

There you have it, my plan to (continue to) learn a language in 3 months.  I’ll be starting on Sunday, September 29th and continuing until the end of December.  It’s the perfect way to end 2019 and to begin 2020 on a high note. I’ll be leaving updates on here about my progress and experience with this project of mine.  If you’ve read this far, I applaud you.  

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Until next time! 

We’re quickly approaching the last three months of 2019.  Before we know it, a new year will be upon us and along with that, resolutions.  Some of us make New Year’s resolutions at the start of each year… then we fail to follow through.  When that happens, we decide to wait until the next year to make resolutions again. This time around, instead of waiting for a new year, why don’t we take advantage of what’s left of the current year?  We’re at the finish line of 2019. Let’s start where we left off (or maybe even never began) and finish the year off strongly with a 3-month challenge. Did you plan to lose weight? Gain muscle? Read more? Make new friends? Learn a new language?  If you did, but fell off the wagon, now is the time for you to get back on and to focus on your goal for the next three months.


In my case, I’ll be doing a 3-month language challenge. Currently, I’m at an intermediate level of Arabic and I want to improve on that.  My new year’s resolution (at the end of the year) is to focus on building my language skills and to hopefully reach an advanced level.


If you want to work on learning a language in these last months of 2019, join me. I’m starting on Sunday, September 29th and will continue until December 29th, 2019.   The more people that join, the better. If you’d like to join, sign up here, so you can stay up to date. You’ll also receive PDFs of a reflection log and a 3-month learning calendar to help you keep track of your goal. I hope you’ll join me and we’ll all experience growth for the remainder of the year.

You’ve probably set a goal once or twice in your life.  Many of us tend to go on a goal setting spree at the start of a new year.  With each new year comes a new resolution. Yet inevitably, after a month or two (if we’re lucky) we fall off the bandwagon.  Our goals take a back seat. What things have you wanted to do in the past and failed to accomplish? Why haven’t you achieved your goals?


“If you fail to plan, you’re planning to fail”.

Whether it’s saving money, traveling a bit more, learning a language, or something else, most of us have something that we want to achieve.  In our minds we create a goal phrase. For example, you might say, “This year, I want to learn German”. Some of us might even write it down to remind ourselves of our goal. Then we haphazardly do some activities that are supposed to help us achieve our goals.  Our excitement begins to fizzle out after a short while and eventually our goal is forgotten about. Although people often fail to remain committed to their goals, this isn’t something that has to be inevitable. By making plans with clarity and direction, your ambitions can become a reality.  Two useful methods that can help you strategize more effectively are having SMART goals and making use of the GROW method.

SMART Goals.

Having a goal is one thing, but setting SMART goals can bring you closer to accomplishing what you want in life. What does SMART mean?

S- Specific. When setting your goals, they should be clear and specific. 

M- Measurable. The goal should be measurable, you should be able to count or measure your progress toward the goal that you’ve set for yourself.

A- Actionable. What steps (actions) are you going to take to reach your goal?

R- Relevant. Is your goal important to you? Does it have a place in your life? If the goal doesn’t have some kind of importance for you and no real value in your life, it’ll be harder for you to achieve. 

T- Time bound. Your goal has to be limited by a certain amount of time. If you leave your goal open-ended in terms of time, there’ll be no sense of urgency. By placing restraints on your goal, you’ll know that you have a limited amount of time to reach your goals. That can push you to work hard and steadily toward what you want to reach.

Let’s make an example goal using the SMART method. Earlier, I wrote the goal phrase “This year, I want to learn German”.  That is a goal, but it’s not specific enough. What does “learn German” mean? How will I know when I’ve “learned” German? How much German do I want to learn? To make a more specific goal, we might say something like “This year, I want to learn German and reach an intermediate level in the language within 6 months. I will spend an hour each day learning by working with a teacher, build my vocabulary through reading and Netflix, or doing an audio program”

GROW Model

Another option that can help you reach your goal is the GROW model. Similar to SMART, GROW is an acronym and stands for the following.

G- Goal. What’s your goal? What do you want to achieve (be sure it’s clear!)?

R- Reality. What’s your current reality? In relation to your goal, what is your situation here and now?

O- Options/Obstacles. What choices are available for you to meet your goal? What obstacles stand in your way and what could you do to overcome them? 

W- Way forward. What are you going to do and when will you do it?

Looking back at the example I gave earlier about learning German, let’s apply the GROW model to it. Goal: To learn German to an intermediate level. Reality: I am an absolute beginner in German and have no knowledge of the language. I’m also not in a German speaking country and I have no Germans around me. Options: I can look for a school that teaches German or find classes online. Obstacles: I may not have a lot of opportunities to practice speaking the language and it might be hard for me to find books in German.  Way forward: I’ll find some audio programs to start learning from and try to learn some new words next week. I’ll also look for easy articles online for learners of German. In a month, I’ll find a teacher online to begin working with.

The Take Away

Think about the goals that you’ve had in the past. Why haven’t you achieved your goals? Everyone can achieve a goal even though it sometimes seems like it’s impossible. Through being clear about your goal, careful planning, and being determined, you can accomplish the things that you want to. Next time you have a goal, try using the SMART method or the GROW model and see how that works for you.  When it’s all said and done, you might be pleasantly surprised. Good luck in reaching your goals!  

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As we’ve mentioned before on this blog, learning a language can be a rewarding endeavor.  There are many benefits that you can get from learning a new language.  Let’s say you already agree with this idea and you want to start learning a new language.  How can you start?  Maybe you can register for a course at a school.  You also could find a teacher online to help you out.  Or, you could join a language study group that meets at your local café or library.  I’m going to take a different position and suggest you don’t do any of these.   Instead, I think you should start learning a new language by yourself.  Yes, you’re reading that correctly.  I think you should start learning a new language by yourself.  I know that learning languages is a social affair and it gives you the chance to meet new people.  You’ll also have a teacher who can correct you.  Perhaps even classmates who’ll encourage and motivate you to keep pushing through, perhaps… However, let me give you give you some reasons why it’s better to start learning a language by yourself instead of in a classroom.  If you keep reading after these reasons, I’ll even give you some ways to make it happen.  

Why should you start learning a language by yourself?   

It’s cheaper

Unless you’re learning a language with volunteer teachers, or you have a scholarship, your courses are going to cost money. Depending on the language, it can cost a lot of money.  If you learn independently, you can get away with doing it for free, but if you want quality, you should expect to pay some money.  However, you won’t be paying per hour.  Many of the materials you’ll be using will be yours to own, or at least you’ll have unlimited access to them. Why pay an arm and a leg just to learn basic vocabulary and to conjugate them from the present to the past?  Save that money for a higher-level class where you’ll get more bang for your buck.  This leads us to our next point.   

Enter at a higher level

If you start learning a new language by yourself, you may end up being exposed to richer materials and more words than you would in a traditional classroom.  You won’t be constrained by a curriculum (for the most part).  There won’t be limitations because of your classmates.  You might also be willing to push yourself more than you would in a class.  The topics you expose yourself to will (hopefully) be interesting and that will pull you more deeply into the language.  The more interest you have, the more the likelihood of increased exposure. The more exposure you get, the more growth you’ll experience.  Once you have the basics down, a solid set of vocabulary, and you’re able to communicate to some extent, you’ll be ready to enter into a classroom environment with some tools at your disposal.   

A stronger foundation

Having a stronger foundation in the language you’re learning, you’ll be able to bring more to the classroom.  Now, you’ll be able to understand more of what your teacher has to say.  You’ll also have the ability to communicate more readily.  You decided to start learning a new language by yourself, and while you have grown, there are some things that aren’t very clear to you. You’ll come to class with curiosity, filled with many questions to ask your teacher about those unclear parts of the language.  This will lead to a richer experience in the classroom environment compared to if you had entered as just a blank slate.  Your foundation is solid, and now your role and that of your teacher is to build on what you already know.  The two of you can now work on pushing you to the next level of your language journey. 

How can you start learning a new language yourself?

If you decide to start learning a new language by yourself, what products or materials are available to help?  There’s a plethora of YouTube channels available.  There are also an endless numberof blogs out there.  None of these will be recommended because for the most part, they’re limiting. Unless you don’t mind spending 15 minutes to learn how to say a single word or to say “good morning”.  (Note:  I’m talking about channels and blogs dedicated to learning specific languages. When it comes to the topic of language learning in general, there are many extremely useful ones out there.)  Below, I’ll give you four ways to start learning a new language by yourself.  


Although in recent years Pimsleur has started to promote their “premium program” which includes things like reading lessons, digital flash cards, and games, I’ll be talking about their classic program.  The Pimsleur audio program has 30 lessons that are around 30 minutes in length.  The lesson starts off with two people having a conversation in the language that you’re learning.  Then, step-by-step, you’re introduced to new words and phrases. You’ll be asked “how do you say ‘xyz’” and you’ll have to answer out loud.  By the end of the lesson, you’ll be having a conversation with the recording.  You’ll also be able to understand the conversation that you couldn’t understand at the start of the lesson.  Using Pimsleur as you start learning a new language by yourself does many things.  First, it helps to build your vocabulary.  You’ll be exposed to common words and phrases and that’s a great thing for your lexical foundation.  Second, your listening skills will develop and improve over time. Since the program is a strictly audio one and has nothing to do with writing or reading, you’re forced to listen. Finally, your speaking skills will improve as well.  Maybe you won’t be fluent, but you’ll be able to communicate to a degree.  Many people who have used it (myself included) have had the experience of people saying that their pronunciation is great and very clear.  The take away.  The classic Pimsleur program will have you speaking from the very beginning.  You’ll gain vocabulary and your listening skills will develop as well.  Whether you’re at home, driving, walking, or doing anything else, you’ll be able to use the program.  Currently, there are more than 50 languages and language varieties available.  Some languages only have one level available, while other more popular languages (such as French, German, and Spanish) have 5 levels.  Stick with the program and follow the learning instructions and you’ll be sure to see some progress.  The Pimsleur program is available on their website as well as on  I’m not sure about other countries, but in the United States, many public libraries have the program available.  If your local branch doesn’t, you can ask them if they can have it sent from another branch.  


Reading is one of my favorite ways to start learning a language.  By reading, you can become exposed to vocabulary, sentence structures, and more. Through books or novels, you’ll experience repeated exposure and repetition will help things to stick. 

So how does this work?  Let’s assume that you’ve already done two levels of the Pimsleur program. Now you have some vocabulary under your belt.  You can now try to increase your vocabulary by getting your hands on a very easy book. There are two kinds of books that you can look for.  The first are children’s books.  If there are illustrations in the book, that would be even better to help with comprehension.  The second (and my preferred kind) are graded readers.  These books are novels that have been simplified and made specifically for language learners.  I enjoy them because they’re repetitive (again, more exposure) and they also give you a gauge of your language level.  Graded readers are generally available from level 1 (absolute beginners) to level 6 (advanced learners).  

*If you’re learning a language that uses a different writing script than you’re used to, you’ll first need to find a book or instructional guide that can show you how to read and write the script of your language.

Podcasts and Cartoons

So you’ve completed some levels of Pimsleur and you’ve completed some books.  Now what? You can move on to podcasts and cartoons.  Both of these are free for the most part and you’ll get a lot of exposure and listening practice.  Cartoons are great because the characters will generally speak with a clear voice. If the cartoons are popular, there’ll be many episodes and seasons available to watch.  That gives you a continuing storyline and with enough time, you’ll know the characters, the situations, and what’s happening in each show. The more episodes you watch, the more you’ll be able to pick up with time.  Additionally, many cartoons have been translated into different languages. Are there cartoons that you enjoyed watching as a child? Search for them and see if they’re available in the language that you’re learning.  Podcasts are also similar and they can help you to learn about the culture and ideas of the people who speak the language that you’re learning.  You’ll get a lot of insight from them. 

Practice Makes Perfect

You’ve spent some time building your vocabulary and speaking skills with Pimsleur.  You’ve been reading books.  You have your favorite cartoons and podcasts to help you with listening and understanding. Now you might want to work a little bit on your writing and grammar.  The book series Practice Makes Perfect is great for that.  They have books that give you explanations for grammar points followed by pages upon pages of exercises.  You can practice on and solidify your understanding of things like tenses, subject-verb agreement, and more.    

Concluding thoughts

It’s not impossible to start learning a new language by yourself.  In fact, you can accomplish a lot by starting on your own.  To sum up the above information, you can begin your own independent learning program by doing the following:

  1. Pimsleur audio program (Months 1-2 [or up to 5])
  2. Reading (Months 2-5)
  3. Listening to podcasts and watching cartoons (Months 3-5)
  4. Practice Makes Perfect for grammar and writing skills (Months 3-5)

Just to make it clear, if I were to start learning Spanish in the year 2020, here’s what I would do.  From January until May, I would work with Pimsleur.  In February, I would start reading short, easy books.  I would continue reading until May.  In March, I would start listening to podcasts and watching cartoons.  I’d also start working with grammar or exercise books.  All of this would be done until May.  The grammar books, I’d work with only once a week, but everything else, I’d try to do daily if possible.  Pimsleur would absolutely have to be a daily activity because that’s a requirement of the program. Once May came around, I’d begin to work with a teacher to iron out any mistakes I’m making, but also to push me to the next level and closer to fluency.  

After four or five months of consistent practice and learning, if you decide to take more formal lessons in a classroom setting, you’ll see that you’re no longer a beginner.  Now you’ll be able to continue with your language learning journey and at a much higher level than if you had joined a class at the very basic level. If you want to start learning a new language, you should start.  Don’t let an absence of schools or native speakers stop you from reaching your goal and pursuing your desire.  

On today’s podcast, we’ll be talking about friendship, the importance of it, and how to make it happen even when you’re away from home. In the second part of this episode, we’ll talk with a special guest who will tell us her experience with friendship while living in a new environment. Join us for episode 3 of the Words and Bridges podcast!

Culture Shock! 

This phrase is thrown around often enough and that has been the case for years on end.  Culture shock is the feeling of disorientation that a person may develop when they enter into a culture that isn’t similar to their own.  The further away from their own culture, the more severe the case of culture shock might be. In short, they are shocked by the things they see in the new culture that they’re encountering.  Culture shock is said to consist of 4 phases.  

The Honeymoon Period

During this phase, the traveler is enamored with the new culture that they have entered.  They are thrilled to try new food, traditional clothing attracts their attention, the sound of a different language is exotic, the people are different.  It’s a new experience for a person who’s traveling and they’re taking it all in. However, if they stay long enough, the traveler may find him or herself transitioning to the second phase of culture shock.  


As the name says, the traveler now suffers from frustration.  The language that was so exotic becomes an annoyance. It’s difficult to communicate, and who knows, the locals might very well be making fun of the poor traveler.  The food is too spicy (or too bland, or too sweet). There aren’t any “regular” clothes. People don’t honor their commitments, others are too fastidious when it comes to time. Travelers lament “why can’t these people just be normal???”  There’s a lot of anger, irritation, and the traveler may wonder why they are still in the country. Given enough time, the traveler (if he or she is lucky) may move on to the next phase of culture shock.  


When the traveler adjusts, they become used to the way of life in the new country.  They might make friends, learn the language (even if only passingly), and start to have an active life.  It may become easier for them to find the things that they need (like “regular” clothes) and they may start to feel comfortable in the place they’re currently living in.  

Adaptation or acceptance

At this point, the traveler has absorbed the culture and might even be a part of the culture.  They rarely question why people do things the way they do or why things aren’t “normal” like they are at home.  In fact, for some travelers, this place that caused them so much grief, confusion, and shock might become their home while their original home becomes a little more foreign to them day after day.  Now, they’ve become fully immersed in the society and they can function in it nearly as well as a local (some even become more local than the locals).  

Is Culture Shock Necessary?

The idea of experiencing culture shock when traveling has been around for ages and it was a guaranteed part of the traveling experience in the past.  When communications between countries (and even villages) was limited, there weren’t many ways for a person to know what to expect when going abroad except by word of mouth and maybe through reading.  However, with globalization and mass communication that reaches every corner of the Earth in this day and age, is it really necessary for culture shock to occur? Is it possible for travelers (or even expats and immigrants) to prepare themselves for traveling beforehand so thoroughly that they don’t experience culture shock or that the experience is at the absolute minimum?  This is an idea to think about and one that we’ll revisit a little bit later.  

Is Culture Shock a Bad Thing?

Often when people talk about culture shock, there is the idea that it’s not necessarily a good thing.  Culture shock is to be expected, but it has to be overcome in order to truly enjoy one’s experience in a new land, so they imply.  Becoming disoriented, frustrated, and feeling lonely are definitely not good things, but culture shock doesn’t have to be that way and it doesn’t have to be a bad thing either.  If anything, a traveler can reorient his or her mindset and accept culture shock (if it happens) as just another part of the traveling experience. Just as they might expect to eat different foods, take different modes of transportation, and watch different kinds of television shows, the traveler can just as easily expect to deal with the highs and lows of being in a different culture and embrace the experience just as that; not as a good or a bad thing, but just as an experience.    

Preventing Culture Shock

If, on the other hand, we look at culture shock as a jarring experience for a person, is there a way to prevent it from happening altogether?  In the past, it may have been a next to impossible task. Nowadays, the situation is entirely different and I think culture shock can be completely eliminated, or at least mostly eliminated.  Unless a trip is unplanned and happens suddenly, any person who is traveling can easily acclimate themselves to a new cultural environment before even purchasing their plane tickets. Nowadays, we can watch an endless amount of videos on YouTube or other sites and see the people of a culture, their regular routines, their norms, and so forth.  We can meet people online and have language or cultural exchanges with them. We can read forums on traveler websites about what it’s like to go around in the country, how transportation is, what the negative sides of the society are, and more. For the majority of the places in the world, we can get a wealth of information about what to expect and how to prepare for it beforehand.  This is not to say that doing all of this work will totally erase the disorientation and stress that a foreigner might feel from being in a different society. However, once something is expected, the occurrence might not be as harsh as it would have been had it occurred unexpectedly. In short, the more preparations and precautions a person takes, the less likely they are to deal with culture shock.  This is especially the case with a person who has an adaptable nature and is able to go with the flow. Knowledge plus flexibility goes a long way.  

Final thoughts

Traveling can be a wonderful thing.  Culture shock does occur, but it doesn’t have to be a given.  Learn a bit of the language, know what to expect of the people, get some idea of what is considered normal, read “official” information from the big magazines and sites coupled with the experience of visitors from traveler sites and blogs and your shock is sure to be minimized (in most cases anyway).  

Have you ever dealt with culture shock before?  Was it an acute case or mild? Did you go through all four stages, or did you leave halfway through?  Let’s hear your stories in the comment section below!  

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